Hero’s Journey – Pain to Pleasure

October 13, 2014 at 2:51pm


Pain to Pleasure – a life renewed


This is my true story.
It is about how I turned, in a single day, from depression, stress, anger, pills, addictions, to freedom,

relaxation, energy, vibrancy, a purpose, excellence. Now, 3 years later, I am living my dream and bringing hope to thousands

of people, Igniting the HERO within all.


My journey to a new life started at the end of 2011. I’ve had haemophilia (an genetic condition in which the blood

has difficulty in clotting) since birth and as the years went by, my condition got to a point where I was in a really bad emotional and physical state. I went from depression, to stress, to drinking a handful of pain pills each day. I was taking up to 10 pain and 20 other pills each day. It was as if suddenly I couldn’t cope with pain, depression and stress. As if that wasn’t enough, I needed to get both elbows replaced (I had

an arm brace for six months(some started calling me terminator with the brace on) and my doctor said I couldn’t pick up anything heavier than 2kg/5pounds), and both my ankles needed to get fused or get replaced, The Dr said my future will be in a wheelchair and will have to accept it. That wasn’t even the end of my medical problems: I was also found out that I have hepatitis C and was given a choice go onto transplant list or go on treatment. So I went on hepatitis C treatment that made me sick (some of the symptoms are like those from chemotherapy you get very sick,depressed,don’t eat etc). As a haemophiliac, I used some 20-40 ampules, each of 1 000 units of a blood-clotting factor, each month. Without such treatments a simple cut or bruise could be extremely painful and even life-threatening.

With all this hanging over me, I came to a defining moment at a seminar, and I told myself something has to change. I thought: ‘I’m dying.’ This is where I discovered how powerful we as human beings truly are and how uniquely we are made. It was then that I had my first experience fire-walking. Even beginning of this year my blood sugar went high and Dr wanted me to get treated to be safe so that I don’t get diabetes, even my blood pressure was high reaching a high of 200 / 120.


Seek & you will find

Whatever you seek you will find, whatever you ask you shall receive. I have discovered this to be true. I have learnt that you need to renew your mind every single day. Through a self-development course I was set free and discovered that anything is possible and what my dreams truly are. From walking on fire more than 550 times without any burns, walking up to 20m on a coal bed at 650ºC, I have moved on to board and brick breaking with my elbows against the doctors orders, arrow breaking with my throat and rebar bending, as well as broken glass walking without bleeding, and needle piercing through my hand without bleeding and walking with Lions. I have gone from being a near cripple/disabled to leading what you might consider something like a ‘Superman’ life a Hero on a Hero’s Journey. I have gone from 150kg to 118kg (lost 32kg) and I now take 4-8 1 000 factor blood clotting units a month (a fifth of what I was using before) and only about one pain pill every second week. My life has been transformed from where I previously couldn’t jump, to the present in which I can jump several centimetres into the air. I have no arm brace any longer and, of all the improvements in my health, the best result of all is that I can now pick up my son and hold him in my arms and even my second son. That alone brings tears of happiness to know that I also can bond with my both my sons.


For thousands of years and in all cultures, shamans have walked across hot coals to honour the element of fire and bring healing to their communities. In modern times, it is crucial that we actively reclaim our own innate power to heal ourselves and direct our destiny, to move from acting from fear into a place where each action is based out of love and joy.


a Question if you cut your finger who heals that? do you go to doctor do you pray or do you belief G-d made you so powerful that your body can start the Healing process by it self. Also whatever we ask we will receive, what we focus is where to our energy flows.


Ritual & transformation

Ritual marks a time of change and transformation. To witness or participate in a fire-walking ritual offers a chance to break limiting belief systems, and provides participants with the tools to make the shifts you want in your life to happen and to stick. Whether you choose to

walk or not, at the end of the fire-walking seminar, you will be changed for good. There are just a few times in our life when we are offered a ‘square centimetre of chance’; a gift to completely transform our lives. For me – and apparently many others too – the firewalk is such an opportunity. Joining in as a participant in this ancient, sacred gathering opens us up to deep healing and change – and offers the


chance to dance with the fire of life.


Dancing the Fire

It is one of the first lessons we learn as children: fire burns. And for many of us this lesson goes in very deeply, and includes not only the sting of physical fire, but also translates into a fear of the fire of our own passions, desires and dreams. Firewalking is one of the oldest

human rituals on the planet. In every culture around the world, people have used firewalking as a means of healing and purifying their communities and themselves. Today, firewalking is an incredible tool for modern humans to use.


Moving Beyond Fear




Our fear of fire is a deep-seated belief, one of the core players in our belief system. The first time I watched someone step onto the 650ºC coals, I felt something snap. Suddenly one of my core beliefs had been turned upside down, bringing down virtually all my other beliefs

with it. The possibility of creating serious change in my life was so tangible at that moment, because the structures within my brain had been shattered. I had actually witnessed what I knew was impossible. There was nothing for my constructs about reality to do but crumble.

As a rule, we don’t enjoy our mental constructs crumbling – it feels very threatening and dangerous. Our ego loves being right, having things be safe. Whenever something is not safe for the ego, it pumps out a wave of fear to deter us from changing in any way that goes

against its self image. And fear, as most of us know, is a powerful human emotion. However, I’ve found through my 3 years of

firewalking and teaching that fear can actually be a great friend. Even after 500 plus firewalking sessions, I still feel that initial rush of fear as I step up to the fire. But I’ve learned to take the fear and see it as simply energy. We can all take the energy of our emotions – any emotions – and by seeing them simply as energy we can use them to support us rather than hinder us on our path. With practice, it is simple to find a place of silence within, take a deep breath, and transform the fear into excitement and joy. The next time you feel fear rise in your life, tell yourself: ‘This is simply energy. This is simply energy.’ With that awareness, you can make a choice about how you want this particular energy to work in your life. You can definitely use it to stop you in your tracks. You also have the choice to take your deepest fears and transform them into impetus for change. Know that your belief system was inherited from your parents, and may not necessarily be true. The firewalk can bring these beliefs to the light.


Fire as Teacher

Walking across 20m of coals, I savour each step as I watch my feet move across the fire. I feel like I am walking above the clouds of Texas. Even when doubts come up in my life, I always go back to that moment on the coals; the feeling of total communion with the fire, a

perfect marriage of my soul and the coals. Fire continues to teach me everyday – when I meditate with a flame; when I burn myself on the stove and laugh that I can walk on coals but when I’m not paying attention will burn myself on a frying pan; when I feel passion within my body and act on it. The fire has taught me to honour the flames within myself and walk through all the firewalks in my life.

Because for each of us, the real firewalk, the real challenge, is to live our lives fully, with purpose and joy. It is so hard to convey what happens in a firewalking session to someone who hasn’t been there and done that.


To some it might seem crazy, even – or some sort of trick. But it is neither. I remember this experience: light misting rain haloes

our bodies in the darkness as we circle around the red glistening coals wearing our shoes loosely on our feet. We hold hands and chant, energy buzzing my fingers, shaking my knees against the backdrop of a hush of silence, and we all stare at the centre, a thick layer of burning charcoal chunks, 4m by 3m of contained fire to prove the impossible is possible. I look at Lori, standing solidly next to me, not knowing what to expect. In her eyes I see, even if none of us walk, even if we leave with our feet still cold from this wet grass, we are changed. And then the first woman steps-forward, quiet, curly-haired – monica. ‘She is going first?’ I think, as with slow grace she stands before the fiery challenge. This seems a dream, a vision as she bows respectfully to the impossible, raises her arms to her side proud as a gymnast and walks across the coals. She walks across the coals! I see her feet touch the fire I see her feet swallow the coals. I see! And I am crying and laughing, feeling my cold feet tingle. This is the power and the spirit of the life-changing firewalk. If only everyone could know for themselves the power of the fire, its capacity to teach us about ourselves and our true potential; its capacity to instigate change

within us that in turn allows us to heal, even from genetic disorders and severe long-term disease; its near-magical ability to make our lives whole again. If only.


3years Later

To think how fast 3years has passed. As I pack now to go back to where it all started I have a feeling of excitement and feeling nervous as I am about to receive my Master Firewalk Certificate. Just to think and Imagine 3years ago I was there with Charles/Matt/Greg/Kevin/Monica/Lori/Hazem/Roberto/luis and I became the second trained Instructor from South Africa and now I am going there to receive the First and only Master Certification for Africa. How awesome is that!

Following your Dream

October 14, 2014 at 9:47am


“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sureit’s worth watching.” ~Unknown


Do you have a dream? A wish? A desire?

Do you ever wake up and wonder: What would it be like to lovelife?

People can tell you “follow your dream,” but is anyone reallydoing it?

Not someone in a TV show or movie—a real, living, breathing,human, just like you?

Is it possible?


Yes there is a difference between following your dream, starting a business or doing both.



The first question you need to ask is Why?

We all start with the greatest intention in the world, from wanting to change the world to leaving a legacy, even to make money.


What is your reason? Because you have to remind yourself of it everyday and not just in the beginning. So why do I say this.

Well I have a Few friends that is very successful in what they do, the more successful they become they forget the reasons why they in the first place started to follow their dream or business. Yes some of us just wants to play golf and be lazy that is a nice dream to have and yes Startup businesses fail in the first 5years. That is why I say what is your reason, it will not be easy, yet there is no word like “failure”!

We grow and learn that is our journey! so if we see it like that then you will enjoy the ride.



I hope with all my heart, today is the day that you begin thejourney to turn your dream into a reality.


15 Reasons to Start Following YourDream Today


  1. You’ve always wanted to do this.

When I think about the question: If you had a million dollarswhat would you do with your life? I can now say, “Exactly what I’m doing.”

You’ve always wanted to follow your dream—so start today!


  1. You’ll experience things you nevercould have imagined.

I meet new and very successful people. I eat foods that I never knew existed.

The pursuit of a dream will give you experiences you neverthought possible.


  1. You will become courageous.

At some point your dream will mean so much to you that you willstop at nothing. When the dream overtakes you, no matter what your fears areyou will not allow it to stop you.

You will stare your fears in the face. You will become acourageous person. I am A Firewalker.


  1. You will become an inspiration tothose around you.

By doing what I want to do instead of what others want from me,I have been able to inspire others to follow their dreams.

Focus on your dreams, not what others want you to do, and youwill do the same.


  1. You will realize the incrediblethings you are capable of doing.

When you step forward to pursue your dream, you will facechallenges you never could have anticipated. You will allow nothing to stopyou. You will shock yourself at your ability to plow through any situation.


  1. You will like yourself more.

You will feel excited and energized by the life you are choosingto live. You will feel proud of what you are doing. And you will like yourselfmore for it.


  1. Life will become beautiful.

As you realize your own potential, you will realize thepotential in others. You will start to recognize the beauty that life, you, andothers have to offer.


  1. Your joy and happiness will becomecontagious.

When people are around you, they will feel better aboutthemselves and life because you are living proof it is possible to live adream!


  1. You will connect on a deeper levelwith the force of the universe.

The pursuit of a dream requires an act of faith. You stepforward and take action. When you do this, you will face experiences that willbring you closer to the force of the universe.


  1. You will smile more.

Life is better when you smile more. If you follow your dream,you will enjoy yourself and this will happen!


  1. It will give meaning toeverything you do.

Before I started following my dream I would often wonder,“What’s the point?”

Now, I know the answer to that question! Every action I takebrings me closer to my dream.


  1. The food will taste better.

Yup, you read that right! When you step forward with your dreamyou will feel more alive and you will better appreciate all the beauty life hasto offer. So, yes! Even the food tastes better.


  1. Every day you will learn newthings.

Every day I learn more why people do the things they do, more Firewalking, Hero’s Journey and moreabout myself. I’m challenged and excited. The deeper I get in my dream, themore I learn.


  1. Your happiness will show on yourface.

It’s true! When you are optimistic, excited, and happy, guesswhat? You are drastically more attractive.

At twenty-eight I looked stressed out, sick, dying and overwhelmed. At thirty three Ilook happy and excited because I am happy and excited.


  1. You will love being around you.

When we pursue a dream, we are connecting with our heart’sdesires. It’s a way of telling our soul “I love you.”

It’s pretty great to hang out with people you love—especiallywhen it’s yourself!

How Quitting the Family Business for my dream f****d my life up

October 1, 2014 at 11:24am


I read an article written by ALI MESE it spoke to me, why because it is what I am experiencing at the moment on my Hero’s Journey


Finally the end of May arrived:

“Tomorrow morning I am on my own I am going to follow my Dream.”

I was working for one of the top Independent Family Run Furniture business in Limpopo .

A life packed in 10 years of building the family business from 10 to 27 stores, 20-150 employees. A life where you miss out on everything and everyone in life, why because every December or holiday guess who had to work and stay behind? Yes, me while the rest of the family is on vacation in Hartenbos. In a fancy business life we are taught to be ideal slaves of those who are actually living their dream so in the end we are slaves to some one else’s dreams, at top business schools whose degrees I am proud to hold is only a degree and brings in no happiness.

After few hours of sleep, every night giving everything to a business that no matter how much was given was never good enough.

The salary? It was fancy, too. The company as a family business provided everything vehicles, a big house 2000sqm with a swimming pool,trampoline etc, properties, overseas vacations the newest gadgets, yet my life was still empty even thou we did it for a family business it was still being part of the Rat Race.




There was something wrong with this life, though. I couldn’t stand this bullsh*t any longer and one day I called my parents:

“Dad, mom, I want to quit my job and the family(lol). I want to start my own startup.”

My mom almost had a heart attack. It wasn’t the first thing a perfectionist mother wanted to hear after encouraging me to stay in the business as I had 2 sons and a wife to support. I “tried” to ease her distress. No chance.

My dad was also not happy as he is getting closer to retirement and want his sons to do all the work as he trusts no one else.


As I am a Haemophiliac (a medical condition where blood doesn’t clot, I bleed very easily and one big accident can mean death. At the moment having pain 24/7, Dr’s say I need to get elbow and ankle replacements etc will post my story) my dad said thats why he built the business because I will never make it outside of the business and I will fail.


“Mom, Dad I hate it. All this time I have been pretending to be happy and not only me but everyone in the business are taking happiness pills. I get to sleep only 3–4 hours a day. All those benefits the company promised don’t exist. Remember the holidays overseas? I am working almost 20 hours a day and I don’t even enjoy it. Breakfast? We never have time to have that. Fancy lunch, dinner? It’s just a sandwich in front of my computer or Junk food on the road visiting the shops. Then my one brother has left the business and started his own Gym and he has grown that business to 4 gyms.  My youngest brother is in the business and he loves it.  Why?  Just like me he is chasing money, making money more money money money money.”

The fancy salary? I never have time to spend a single penny of it.

I hate my life, Mom Dad, it’s such a loser life. I don’t even see my wife and 2 children. I can’t fake it anymore. I want to start and follow my dream bringing lasting transformation to everyone to those who can afford it and those that cannot afford it.”


I told myself and them there must be something more to life 

If I fail I can say that I failed at something I love than to work for life in business where I die everyday


My parents had left their secure and boring government jobs to start their own business.

I knew that coming from a family with entrepreneurial background, it would not be difficult to explain my situation to them, they should understand, yet to my surprise they did not understand.

but I didn’t expect the call next morning or the day after or after……


It was my mom on the phone:

“Sooooooooo, how is your business doing?! Is it growing?! are you having fun? what are you actually doing?”

No matter what I said, I couldn’t explain to her that a business needs more than one day to grow and energy and time.


Wife, Friends & Social Circle


Having had the most supportive wife ever, it was now time I shared the news with my friends who were busy climbing the fancy career steps in the fancy corporate world.

I told everyone that I just quit my job to follow my dream. Some of my friends gradually stopped seeing me, probably because they thought there was something wrong with me since it was the “fancy,secure,no worries” job I had quit.

While the rest of my friends were supportive, there was, however, still something wrong with my relationship with them:

I soon realised I was starting to pull myself away from social gatherings and from my family.


Every time I met with those friends, I didn’t have many updates to give them in response to their repeated questions, such as, “So, how is your startup going? You are going to be the next Zuckerberg, right?” how much are you making? how is it to not stress? having fun following your dream?” “Oh man, we are so proud of you and we are so sure you will soon receive a huge round of investment.”


Following your dream is a long journey and I was putting myself under so much pressure by giving such a big f*ck about what other people think.

Day by day, I was getting lonelier and more depressive(yes we can get depressed) as I avoided social occasions. My startup progress was not as fast as my social circle imagined it to be and I was fed up with telling people it took eg years for startups like Facebook, Virgin and Apple to arrive at where they are now.

The only comfortable place was next to my few friends that where following their dreams and where Entrepreneurs as well. It was true, only a dream chaser and an entrepreneur could understand an entrepreneur.


Cash, cash, cash.


As if the social pressure and all the loneliness were not enough, I was meeting the mother of all stresses: running out of cash much faster than I had imagined.

This was killing my productivity and ability to make proper decisions. I was panicking and rushing to be successful and to make money. what again focusing on money, money, money.


One day, I even found myself asking a friend for a few cents because I had no money to buy bottled water, going through a day without eating or going to bed hungry. I am having to scrape by so that my family could have food to eat.

I didn’t know it was just the beginning of such a difficult life full of ups and downs… ups and downs…


Wait, I am not selling a dream. No, I haven’t become a millionaire dream startup founder.

However, my business My DREAM has possibility, energy it has LIFE and it has that something special and it is growing day by day.


There are, however, a few things I wish I had asked myself before starting this painful journey. Questions I believe every future entrepreneur should ask himself before taking the first step to Following their dream and entrepreneurship:


  • Are you ready for the social pressure?


If you have friends and family who are not entrepreneurs, they won’t truly understand what you are trying to achieve and the public pressure will be even higher.

I cared so much about what other people think of me – so much that it was busy ruining my life.

I was so hard on myself and punished myself with even more work so I could announce my success as soon as possible. That is, until the day that is today I realised no one gave a f*ck about me, so why would I?

You are no more than a few seconds of attention to other people give to a Facebook status.

In 2014, no one has time to care about others in such a crowded, noisy world.

If you care so much about what others think, you will waste your time “trying” to prove that you are successful instead of focusing on your dream.

Get a life. I got mine quite late.



  1. Are you single or do you have an extremely supportive partner?


As we grow up, we share more of our life with our partners than with our friends or family. While I was lucky to have such an amazing wife, it was so sad to see many of my entrepreneur friends breaking up with their girlfriends along the way

Doing your own business is tough – way tougher than I could have ever imagined. Your mind is constantly f*cked up with a million things going on inside and no other person, including your wife or girlfriend, has a single clue what is going on in there.

If you are not single, make sure your partner understands it’s sometimes normal not to have a mindset even for a simple kiss or hug.

Yes, for a simple proper French kiss.


  1. Do you have enough cash to last at least a year?


Good, then multiply that amount at least by three because you will be running out of your savings way faster than you ever imagined. Along the way, there will be so many hidden costs, servicing of vehicles(vehicle it is only transport you have), Tyres, cellphone contract, monthly debit orders, Petrol, accounting fees, lawyer needs, broken iPhones or PCs, etc.

Get ready for a smaller apartment, smaller food portions, or counting your cents, which you never cared about in your life previously.

The last few months before you totally run out of your cash it will be especially difficult and the pressure will grow so exponentially that you won’t be able to sleep properly.

Success will come slowly, and cash will burn fast very fast. Be smart – plan from day one.


  1. Are you ready to sleep only few hours a day?


Having escaped from the corporate world, I was thinking I was finally going to live the dream by working whenever I wanted to work – until I read Lori Greiner’s following quote:

“Entrepreneurs are willing to work 80 hours a week to avoid working 40 hours a week.”


It all started by little wake-ups in the middle of the night. At the beginning, it was because I was too excited about my ideas and I had so many of them. I simply couldn’t wait for the morning to arrive so that I could start working again.

Then came the exaggeration phase. I was working too much because I never had enough of working for my idea and I wanted to do more. However, the more I worked and the later I went to bed, the more difficult it was to fall asleep and the lower the quality of my sleep became.

As a result, at least two or three days of every week I was having days with almost no productivity.

Don’t be fooled by those who say you can sleep less and do more. Don’t be fooled by over-hyped funding news about startup founders becoming millionaires. Don’t be fooled by quick get rich schemes

The stories behind the scenes have so many painful days, sleepless nights, and continuous rejections and failures.

The journey to success is long. Very long. Very often, too long.


  1. How do you define success?


Each of us has a different priority list in life. For most people, money is the number one priority on the list, while work-life balance ranks higher for others. Consequently, people define success differently.

Depending on your definition of success, the difficulty of your entrepreneurial journey will differ, too. If money and public success are what matters to you the most, you are likely to have a hard time along your journey.


Remember Hemingway’s wise words:

“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”


Successful entrepreneurs are not necessarily those who raise millions of investment rounds. Don’t forget, they are one in a million.

There are, however, thousands of dreamers out there who manage to bootstrap their startups or live so well off on their own, but even they do not make it to the top of tech news.

No matter how much your journey f*cks up your life or how difficult it will be, enjoy the ride and keep following your passion.


As Tony Gaskin puts it perfectly:

“If you don’t build your dream, someone will hire you to help build theirs.”


  1. Never Give Up


Never give up and never surrender, do Whatever it Takes to live your dream.


“I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain

and not to shrink into a grain of sand

henceforth will I apply all my efforts to grow into the highest mountain of all

and I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy” – Og Mandino


I will be certified October 2014 as the first and only Master Firewalk Instructor by the same Institute that trained speakers like Tony Robbins, T Harv Eker, Andy Harrington, Eric Ho, Phill Kambe, Barry Mitchell, Willem Gous, Nick Hawke etc



Go and Live your dream no matter what happens it will be tough so just enjoy it grow and learn.

In the End life is to short to not have given your dream a chance and know if the must/why is big enough you will make it happen and you will never give up,


You will have lived and be a Hero you where meant to be.


www.firewalking.com – sign up for the training coming up in May2015 South Africa


Written by:

\S/upermanlife – Cobus Visser.com


all credits go to Ali Mese

I copied and modified it from Ali Mese http://www.entrepreneur.co.za/how-quitting-my-corporate-job-for-my-startup-dream-fcked-my-life-up/

Just a mortal with potential of superman

I’m not a prophet or a stone aged man, just a mortal with potential to be a superman. I’m living on.


I can’t fly

I’m not that naive

I’m just out to find

The better part of me

I’m more than a bird?

I’m more than a plane
More than some pretty face beside a train
It’s not easy to be me facing these challenges
Wish that I could cry 
Fall upon my knees
Find a way to lie
About a home or dream I might never see 
It may sound absurd?
don’t be naive
Even Heroes have the right to bleed
I may be disturbed?

but won’t you concede
Even Heroes have the right to dream
It’s not easy to be me 
Up, up and away? away from me
It’s all right? You can all sleep sound tonight
I’m not crazy? or anything? 
I can’t fly
I’m not that naive
Men weren’t meant to ride
With clouds between their knees 
I’m only a man with a superman logo believing in a dream
Digging for kryptonite that I might face on this one way street no more alone 
With Hero’s next to me on this Journey we will learn to fly
Looking for special things inside of me and you